Many families still expect matches to come through relatives or a ghotok. When you find someone promising online, the way you bring it up can make all the difference.

1. Choose the right moment

Pick a calm time when your parents aren't rushed, not in the middle of a family event or a stressful day. Start with one parent if that feels easier.

2. Explain how Bolo Kobul works

Parents often worry about safety online. Tell them that members verify their phone numbers, that photos stay private until both sides accept, and that phone numbers are never shown. Chat only opens after both of you agree.

3. Share the profile together

Show them the full profile, including education, work and family details. Let them read the family section in particular. That's usually what they care about most.

4. Listen to their questions

Their questions come from care. Write them down and find the answers together, through chat or by suggesting the families speak. Don't take their first reaction as a final answer.

5. Suggest the families connect

Offer to arrange a phone call or a meeting between the families. Involving them early shows respect and helps everyone feel part of the decision.

6. Be patient

Give your parents time. Trust grows when they see you're thoughtful and honest about the process.

Many of our success stories began this way. Read a few under Success Stories; they might help your parents see what's possible.